Blog Note to Reader: This post continues a discussion about mediumship, and specifically, what a mediumship reading might look like. If you are new to the blog or new to mediumship, I recommend starting with earlier posts on the subject:
- Mediumship – For the Left-Brained
- Mediumship – What’s the Point?
- Talk With The Dead (Part 3) – “Assisted”
Now, let’s get to it …
So, ‘member my friend, the one whose mom just died? We talked ‘bout him last time.
Yes, of course. How’s he doing?
Still strugglin’. I told him ‘bout the mediumship stuff you explained then, and you know, not to go too quickly.
Okay, good.
Yeah, he sorta gets how it can help … he read your other post ‘bout that. But he’s kinda nervous, wondering what one of them readings’d be like.
Ah, I see. For someone who hasn’t been through a mediumship reading, I understand he might be nervous. I mean, this isn’t something most of us were raised with, and it certainly wasn’t taught in school.
No shi … er, kidding!
Good catch. So, let’s look at what he could expect a mediumship reading to be like.
Which type of mediumship?
The first thing your friend needs to know is there are different types of mediumship he may find when he goes looking. The most common types I’ve come across are psychic, spirit, trance, evidential …
Huh?? Yo … head spinnin’ here.
Fair enough, let me cut to the chase. Given your friend’s dealing with the loss of a loved one, the type of reading I’d recommend is evidential mediumship, and here’s why …
Why “evidential” mediumship?
For a communication with someone on the Other Side to be meaningful, we need to know not only that it’s possible for anyone to survive, but when a spirit person comes to connect with us, we need to know who they are.
I mean, it’s not like we can see them, and most of us know more than one person who’s died, right?
Yeah … even more than a few.
Exactly … uh, sorry. So, we may be hoping to connect with Mom, but Grandma steps up instead. Don’t know why this happens, but it does. The point is, we can’t necessarily be sure just who will show up.
And if a message comes from the spirit person telling us, for example, how much they love us … well, that’s quite different if it’s your mother doing the talking than if, let’s say, it’s the neighbour down the street who just died.
Yikes ….
So, the objective of an evidential mediumship reading is to provide evidence which first, demonstrates our loved ones do carry on, and second, identifies which of them is here right now, doing the “talking.”
Okay, got it … he needs one of them evidential types. So what then? Like, what’d it look like?
What’s an evidential mediumship reading like?
It’s important to know that each medium has their own individual style. So, when your friend finds a medium he thinks he’d like to connect with, he can follow up with them to learn the specifics of their sessions. Very often, we can find this sort of information on their website, assuming they have one.
However, let’s step back from specifics and talk in more general terms about what a reading might look like.
How a reading generally unfolds
We meet the medium in a quiet place, typically a comfortable space they work out of. They’ll start with a brief intro to describe the process and answer any questions the sitter, in this case your friend, may have.
Then they’ll take a moment or two to shift their awareness from this world to the spirit world and will wait for a spirit communicator to step forward.
What’s that shiftin’ look like?
It’s really subtle. They’ll probably just close their eyes for a few moments.
After that, they may keep their eyes closed, or work with them open, or some of each. It’s a challenge to stay focused on what’s essentially an invisible person, so each medium has to find their own way of doing it.
Identifying the communicator
Once the medium becomes aware of a spirit communicator, they’ll start to receive information that identifies who this person is.
It may be concrete details that identify them from the get-go, like a name or relationship (“This man tells me he was your father”).
But it may not be that straightforward. For example, if the spirit person communicates they were “a friend,” well, that doesn’t necessarily narrow it down.
Hmm, what happens then?
Actually, in either case, there will be more subjective information that comes forward. Things like, what kind of personality they had, or descriptions of their family, work, or hobbies. Perhaps unusual physical characteristics or, if it’s important, how they passed. Often, they’ll convey memories they shared with the sitter.
It’s stuff like that … information that when taken together, will clearly identify who’s there.
Who picks the evidence?
How does the medium know, ya know, what information to get?
Oh, glad you asked! Because that’s NOT how it works. What people often don’t realize is … it’s the spirit communicator who is driving this process. The information coming through is whatever they have decided to bring forward.
Oh, yeah? Didn’t expect that …
Think about it … who better to know what information will be meaningful for you to not just be able to figure out who they are, but to really know deep down it’s them?
Hmm, yeah, I see. But what if I gotta question I wanna ask ‘em?
Well, the medium can try asking it, and they may or may not get an answer. To be honest, it can disrupt the flow, so usually a medium will ask the sitter to wait until the end before interjecting with questions.
But here’s the interesting thing about that … very often the spirit person ends up providing the answer before we’ve even had the chance to ask!
Like they can read our minds or somethin’ …
Exactly.
So, the medium will share what they’re sensing, and at some point it will become clear to us which of our loved ones has shown up. And there’s often more than one who does.
Oh, cool.
And that’s when they’ll share what it is they’ve come to say.
Whaddya mean … like, what might they wanna say?
What kinds of messages might a spirit communicator share?
The most common message our loved ones come to share is simply to reassure us they’re still here, they’re okay, and they love us. It may sound simple but, to be honest, that right there is huge for most people.
I get it. I mean … I’m still wrappin’ my head ‘round this whole idea of spirits and stuff, so it would be for me.
Right? And other times they have more specific messages to convey, as well.
Perhaps they want to express gratitude for all we did for them at end-of-life, or maybe they want to provide encouragement for a difficult decision we’re facing.
Or it might be to let us know they saw the birth of our child or will be at our sister’s upcoming wedding. Things like that are ways of reinforcing their ongoing presence in our lives, that the bonds of love continue.
Nice …
Other times, the message can be an apology, or expressing regret for something they did in this life. Once we get to the spirit world, apparently we have a much different understanding of life … and particularly the impact we had on others (as shared in Kenneth Ring’s book, “Lessons From The Light.”)
Ooh …
Yeah, this can be very powerful ….
That’s all there is to it
So, that’s it, really. These types of readings don’t generally involve tools, like Tarot cards, tea leaf readings, pendulums, and so forth. Not that there’s anything wrong with these, and you may come across them with some mediums.
However, from what I’ve seen, a professional medium these days will simply tune into Spirit, connect with whomever feels the greatest need to show up for you, and then will start to tell you what they’re sensing.
So, how much time does this all take?
Depends on the medium, but typically, sessions run between 30 and 60 minutes. Oh, and ask permission to record it. You want to be able to take it home and replay it, because it’s really hard to grasp it all in the moment.
What about … ?
One more thing … what about me? If I’m one of them sitters, like, what am I s’posed to do during it?
Ah, great question, and an important one to spend a bit of time on. So, let’s talk about that next time, when I’ll also share an example of all this … a reading that held a surprise and super meaningful visit from my late husband.
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